Being the mother of the groom is a great experience, and you are going to be extremely excited about it. And knowing exactly what your roles and duties are as the mother of the groom will allow you to help in organizing a memorable wedding for your son. Do you want to do something special for your son’s wedding and the new couples’ life? Here are 8 roles and duties for the mother of the groom, that we hope you are going to find useful.
- Invite the bride’s parents to dinner
When your son is excited to tell you that he has decided to get married to his lovely girl, as his parents, you will be happy for your son as well. But there are some things that your son will need some help with from his mother to get ready for his wedding.
The first thing you should do as the mother of the groom is to plan a dinner with his fiancée’s parents and have a formal but simple introduction with the family of the bride. This will give both the families an opportunity to get to know each other. Listening to their ideas and seeking common ground when it comes to the wedding preparations can be done during the dinner. Whether you are the parents of the groom or the bride, all you want to do is help them both have a nice wedding ceremony. So now is the time to use your communication skills and express your sincerity towards the family of the bride, which will make your son’s wedding even better from the beginning to the end. You can also use the dinner as an opportunity to decide the date of the couple’s wedding.
2.Spread the news to your family and friends
After your son’s wedding preparations have started you can spread the news of the wedding through Facebook, calls, emails or texts and have general communication with your side of the family about your son’s wedding. You can also discuss the wedding preparations and get some help from your relatives in the wedding preparation process. You can divide the preparations among your close relatives, and this can also help you bring down the cost for your son’s wedding as you have more people to help with organizing the wedding so you won’t need the services of a wedding organizer. A great way to have a meeting with your relatives regarding the wedding is by inviting them to dinner and getting some ideas from them. Your experience and extra help from your family can make the wedding organizing a lot easy for your son and his partner.
3. Let the couple know about the family, cultural, and religious traditions
It is important to let the new couple know whether there are any wedding traditions in their family background culturally and religiously that they need to consider while planning their wedding ceremony and reception. Sometimes, the family, culture and religious traditions can affect factors like the selection of wedding dress colors for the bride and groom, wedding venue and reception food. So the parents of the groom, especially the mother should guide the couple about the traditions they are supposed to follow for their wedding.
4. Put a guest list together
Since it is your son’s wedding, he and his partner will be the ones to finalize the guestlist for their wedding. But you the groom’s mom can help the couple in making a complete guest list of your family members. But before you invite everyone from the family, you should ask your son about the estimated number of guests they can easily afford before finalizing the guest list to avoid inviting too many people. Additionally, you can also get in touch with your son’s partner’s family about who’s on their list and manage the tricky task of limiting the guest list accordingly.
When there are 5 to 6 weeks left in the day of the wedding, you are supposed to send a message and make calls to inform the guests about the timing and location of the wedding.
5. Help available
As the new couple, your son and his partner will be anxious about their wedding and since they lack the experience while planning their wedding they need your help along the way. So one of the important duties for you is to ask the new couple if you can help them in any way and how they want you to be involved.
You could let the new couple and your future in-laws know that you’re available to help, such as financial support, hosting the wedding and reception parties, deciding the wedding venue and providing effective information about the best caterers, vendors, florists, etc. If your son is too busy or over-burdened with various other wedding tasks, you can help him out by contacting all the wedding vendors and be the hostess to ensure every guest feels welcome at the wedding ceremony.
6. Decide the attire
As the groom’s mother, there is no doubt that you play a central role in his life, and on his wedding day, your attire should be in sync with the theme, style, and color of the wedding. Generally speaking, you can go shopping after your son and his fiancée made the final decision on the wedding style. Then ask the bride what outfit her mother will wear on that day. It would be even better if she can send you a photo of her mother’s dress so that you can have an idea about what she’s wearing and you don’t accidentally end up wearing the same dress as your son’s mother in law.
Also, the color for both mothers’ dresses should be different, but the length could be the same. That is why your dress should be approved by the bride and you may ask the bride to accompany you for buying the dress.
7. Be a guest at the bridal shower
As the groom’s mother, you should attend the bride’s shower, with a warm smile and a thoughtful gift.
As the mother in law to be, you can ask the bride when and where the bridal shower will be held, and make it a priority in your schedule so you don’t miss the event. Since you are about to become a family you can also welcome and greet guests along with the bride. This is a great time to meet other important people in your daughter in law’s life such as her close relatives and friends.
Bring a gift that matches the theme of the party. Of course, it doesn’t have to be a very extravagant gift because there will be many other occasions to give gifts to the bride. Budget accordingly so that you can leave more money for the other more important aspects of your son’s wedding. In my opinion, the right gift for your future daughter in law should be something that will make her feel that she is welcome in the family.
8. Dance with your son
One of the most important and traditional duties of the groom’s mother is the mother-son dance, which is also the special part of the wedding day for mom and son. You can choose the song with your son together, and practice the dance ahead of the wedding.
Both you and your son will naturally be excited while planning the wedding. As the mom, you can always be available when your son asks you to help or financial support. Your support in your son’s wedding will result in a stronger mother-son bond between two of you.